When your relationship feels stuck
Most couples don’t come to therapy because they don’t care—they come because the same pattern keeps winning. The arguments repeat, one of you reaches and the other shuts down, and repair doesn’t land. You can love each other and still feel disconnected.
Couples therapy at mY PSYCHOLOGIST is a place to slow the cycle down, understand what’s happening underneath the conflict, and build a different experience of connection—one that feels steadier, safer, and more respectful.
Common reasons couples reach out
Repeating conflict, escalation, or emotional shutdown
Distance, resentment, loneliness, or “walking on eggshells”
Trust strain and difficulty repairing after rupture
Communication that turns into criticism, defensiveness, or withdrawal
Intimacy challenges—emotional or physical
Stress from parenting, blended families, or major life transitions
What you can expect from sessions
Expect a balance of structure and flexibility. Some sessions will be clarifying and reflective; others will be more hands-on-practicing new ways of responding, learning repair skills, and working with emotional moments as they happen. The process is tailored, but we’ll keep a clear focus and track progress together.
How we’ll work together
My approach is relational, practical, and experiential. We won’t just talk about the relationship—we’ll work with what happens in real time, in the moments where you usually lose each other.
We’ll focus on:
The pattern, not the person: reducing blame and getting clear on the cycle you’re caught in
What’s underneath: the emotions and protective moves driving conflict or distance
Skills and repair: building communication tools and repair steps you can use at home
Honest accountability with compassion: staying respectful while naming what needs to change
All intake session for couples are 90 minutes. I do this intentionally because there are a lot of things to discuss in our first session. We’ll clarify what brought you in, what you want to be different, and what “progress” would look like. You’ll leave with a shared understanding of the pattern and a clear place to begin.
Subsequent sessions can be either 60 or 90 minutes. We will explore which option is best for you based on your preferences and on the complexity of your situation.